From the Empowering Solutions Community page recently....
Trauma is trauma. It's our stories that are unique. Thus, believing my trauma was worse than or less than someone else's left me hopeless for healing. I found an empowering solution in learning to let go of the details that kept me stuck and using them to find my solution in the emotional healing process of shifting from that rumination where I was the perpetual victim to resolution where I became my own hero.
The similarities of our experiences is how we find support and validation...in the sharing of our stories.
But when I was stuck in only telling my story over and over
to others who were simply telling their stories over and over
I was stuck in my pain and the "symptoms" of the normal emotional and cognitive/mental distress that comes with being a
I had sought "therapy" for many many years only to be told that my trauma experiences were so devastating, so extensive, so ingrained into my person that I would never
It was when I was able to understand that there was indeed a normal human emotional healing process that was applicable to every single one of my trauma experiences. And while I understood that I would not be who I might have been had I not been traumatized, violated, manipulated, oppressed and abused...
I could be
all I can be today and tomorrow...
and I began to understand that as things came up for me in my healing journey
it was not necessary to heal it
at the same time....
But the task was to know how to heal
It was in the going through
that I finally got out of
that was surviving.
I wanted more.
I wanted to live
and I finally understood that it is
I discovered that it is completely possible to learn to no longer be that perpetual victim of life
but that I could learn to create
my best life.
From the archives....
There is only one hero.... and its you:)
Be Your Own Hero An excerpt..."I can never become what I was meant to be when I am looking for what might have been."
When the student is ready... The gist of this one..."This is that place where I was the student that was ready - and willing to take the action - and my teacher always came."
In love and admiration for your determination to no longer be a victim, live far beyond survival and discover your own
best life. :)